In case it wasn't obvious, I am not an ogre. I do not lose people's queries deliberately. My goal in life is not to make yours miserable.
But what happens, you ask, when you don't get a reply to a query? The broad rule of thumb is that you wait eight weeks (longer if you sent the query through international postage), and then you politely requery the agent. How does one requery, you ask?
You are a moron. You have lost my query because your office filing system is so bad. It does not matter that you receive a large quantity of mail weekly. MY query is so important that you should never, ever, ever have lost it. I hate you!
Now will you represent me?
The above example is how NOT to requery an agent. Here is what you should do.
On August 15, 2006, I queried you about my novel, THE JOY OF BEING AN AUTHOR. I have not yet received a reply to my query, and so I am checking to make sure that it has not gone astray in the mail. I have included a copy of my original query with this letter, as well as a SASE. Thank you very much for your consideration.
Are we all on the same page now?