Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Regrets

One of the websites that I visit everyday is www.dooce.com because it amuses me to no end. Heather Armstrong has got an open blog post going, asking people what they regret not doing in their lives. I thought it would be interesting to try something like that over here. (Watch, now I'll get no comments.)

So here's the game: What do you regret not doing in your life?

My answer: While there's a number of really personal things that I could say, I've opted to go with one that I'm more comfortable talking about online. For several years in college, I didn't write. I did what I had to do, in order to pass my classes, but nothing that wasn't mandatory. And I regret not writing for those years because I forgot what made it so good to do and how it satisfies me as a person. Writing is hard, damn hard, and it kicks my ass on a regular basis. But it's fun and makes me feel good, and I'm so very happy that I've rediscovered it, over the last few years.

Your turn now, people!

15 comments:

Kimber An said...

It really was beyond my control, but I regret not going to the Norland Nursery Training College or the Princess Christian College in England to become a nanny right out of high school. Unfortunately, growing up where I did I simply did not know about these grand institutions of the nanny profession. Instead, I attended the English Nanny & Governess School in Chagrin Falls, Ohio a few years later than I would have liked. It's the best school, in my opinion, that we have on this side of the Atlantic for that line of work. Still, I regret not having the opportunity to return to the nanny's place of origin.

The Beautiful Schoolmarm said...

I wish I had recorded or taken notes on my grandfather's experiences in WWII. He was from a strict, upperclass Presbyterian home (though he later converted to Catholicism)and he ended up stationed on an island keeping track of a munitions dump and in charge of a group of black men from the South. They were so different and it was such a complete culture shock for him, though he was always glad of the experience later. He told so many stories, both funny and poignent, about those times, and no one wrote them down or anything, and now he's gone.

Don said...

I regret not taking a year off before college to travel and work minimum wage jobs whenever I ran out of money. I should've bought a motorcycle and seen the US at 45 mph.

Jordan Summers said...

I really only have three regrets. The first is not finishing college. That's a biggie. The second is not calling in sick to shoot a television pilot. Minor, but I still kick myself. The third is not auditioning to sing backup for Vonda Shepard, when I was asked. I'm a dork. What can I say? *ggg*

Bernita said...

Giving up when my non-fiction book publisher went bankrupt.

Kim said...

I regret not asking my grandfather what it was like growing up during the Depression, or things like how he met my grandmother.

I also regret not finishing college - I have an associates, which is the equivalent to a HS diploma nowadays.

I also regret not going to the NY Yankees World Series victory parade in 2000 (I was 7 months pregnant at the time), because I'm wondering if they'll ever do it again.

katiesandwich said...

I regret ever dating my first boyfriend, because it totally ruined our friendship. We had such a good relationship before we started going out, and after we broke up, we stopped talking to each other. We just weren't compatible as a coupe. But he was a good friend, and I could have used one of those in the years since I last spoke to him.

kiwi said...

I regret not visiting my grandmother one last time before she died.

I also regret not finishing my PhD before leaving academia to write fiction full-time.

Jenny, how about a similar string that lists 'blessings'?

katiesandwich said...

Oops. We weren't compatible as a couple, not a coupe. I'm such a moron.

Joshua Minton said...

I regret not starting my own website in college and publishing my own work online sooner. I wasted far too much time trying the whole literary journal SASE deal.

December Quinn said...

I too regret not getting to know my grandparents better.

Aside from some private regrets, I wish I'd dropped out of high school at sixteen and gotten my GED. I ended up getting it anyway (I was half a credit short in math) and considering that I was homeless for nine months after graduation, if I'd dropped out, gotten my GED, and gone to community college I would have had a degree and a decent job by then, and could have supported myself and had a place to live.

It's kind of hard to really regret it, because all of that put me where I am today--but it sure would have made things easier and less scary for me at eighteen.

Demon Hunter said...

I regret not going to graduate school as soon as I finished college. I plan to go back later this year, along with working and writing full-time!

Lauren said...

I regret spending most of my college career feeling sorry for myself, hardly ever studying, making few friends, not taking advantage of the fantastic programs and opportunities available at my university, and hardly writing anything beyond weepy online journal entries.

And I REALLY regret not taking a year off during college to get my head back in order. I think that could have solved a lot of problems.

I regret not taking my fiance (now husband) out to Texas to meet my grandfather before he died (though I am so pleased my grandma got to meet my husband).

Julie Wright said...

Oy, regret . . .

I regret finishing that high school english assignment, instead of visiting my grandma like I wanted. If I had known she'd be gone the next morning . . .

Lori Perkins said...

I regret staying in a marriage that was over for too long - it sucked the life out of me for my son, for my work and for my creativity.