Saturday, June 07, 2008

The Very, Very Bad Week

I'm going to be short and succinct.

I've just returned from the hospital, where I was discharged an hour ago. I was there since Wednesday, hospitalized for acute bacterial gastroenteritis. This is the same thing that kept me from going to BEA; I've been ill for twelve days now, although I'm now recovering.

I am taking off all next week, on doctor's orders, to rest.

What makes this a very, very bad week, however, is that my grandmother passed away early Friday morning. This is my father's mother, Molly Rappaport, and she was 96. She had a massive stroke in her sleep, sometime early Thursday morning, and she was just gone. Physically there, but mentally gone, and so on the doctors' advice, they let her body run down naturally.

I did not get to go the funeral on Friday afternoon, as I was still in the hospital. Due to a Jewish holiday, we're not even sitting shiva for her for a full week; we have until 3pm tomorrow afternoon.

I know that she had a very long life, and a very rich one at that too.

But she was my grandmother and I still have a need to grieve.

For that reason, as well, I'm also taking off all of next week. I'd like to ask, very respectfully and very politely, to be left alone. Thank you; I appreciate it.

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38 comments:

Brandi said...

Jenny,

I'm glad you're feeling better, and getting some well deserved rest.

I'm sorry about your grandmother. I lost my grandfather last summer, he was 83, and quite sick. It still hurts to lose someone, no matter how long or full their life.

Take care of yourself.

Aimee said...

Ah, honey, I'm so sorry. *HUGS* If there's anything I can do from the other side of the country, please let me know. Love you!

Cat Rambo said...

I'm so sorry to hear this, Jenny. My condolences -- remember to treat yourself well. Best, Cat

hldyer said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. And for your crummy illness, too.

I lost my grandmother in 2001 when I was also twenty-seven. Still devastating... no matter how rich and long her life was, no matter how grown-up and worldly you are.

Best wishes to you for recovery of body and soul.

annathepiper said...

Oh, how awful all around. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such rough things in your life right now. :(

Condolences to you and your family. Please do take all the time you need; all of us with our queries and such will be here when you're ready. Take care.

Debbie Mumford said...

Deepest sympathies for your loss.

Jodi Meadows said...

So sorry to hear about your grandmother.

And feel better, you. :(

Susan Helene Gottfried said...

Oh, my darling. What a horrible week, indeed. I wish I could come and give you huge hugs and tell you goofy stories that'll ease some of your grief, even though that's next to impossible. So maybe I'd just hold your hand and cry with you.

May your grandmother's memory be a blessing. And you know, Molly's a great name for a kid, whenever you're ready. Or a cat, if you're not.

Karen Powers Liebhaber said...

Jenny,

I am SO SORRY!!! My sincere consolations for your loss! And I hope you feel better soon!

Karen

Kristin Laughtin said...

You have every right to take a week off (at least), and anyone who doesn't understand that doesn't deserve your time. I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope you start feeling better (physically and emotionally) soon.

annesible said...

So very sorry for your loss, Jenny.

And sorry to hear you've been so ill.

Everything always seems to happen at once, doesn't it?

Suzanne Nam said...

jenny, i'm so sorry about your grandmother. :-(

feel better and get some rest.

Rachel said...

I'm sorry about your grandmother.

Mary Paddock said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

gillpolack said...

Can I wish you and your family long life. May the rest of your year improve significantly!

kiwi said...

Jenny, you have my deepest sympathies. It's strange how regardless of how old one's grandparents are when they dead, one is never really prepared.Their passing leaves a hole. Celebrate her life and carry her memory forward.

Kiwi.

Ed Greaves said...

My sympathies on your loss.

Katharine O'Moore-Klopf said...

Jenny, I'm so sorry you've been so ill and that your beloved grandmother has died. May your body and your heart both heal well.

Katey Coffing, Ph.D. said...

Oh my goodness, Jenny. :(

I surfed by to say hello and catch up on what's going on for you--wow.

I'm so very sorry for your illness and your loss. I hope you're able to get the rest the will let your body heal, and that you get a chance to cry as you need to, and to breathe. *HUGS*

Travis Erwin said...

Sorry for your loss and your illness. Hope things in your world look up soon.

Kim said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and know you're in all our thoughts. **HUGS**

Sarah said...

I'm so sorry for the extent of your bad week. That horrible, no good, nasty bug is bad enough. But to top it off with how it ended. I'm so sorry. You deserve, and need, that week off. Best wishes to you and your family through your grieving process.

John Joseph Adams said...

So sorry to hear that, Jenny. If there's anything I can do, let me know.

Keith Y said...

So sorry! Please take care.

Keith

pjd said...

I'm terribly sorry to hear about your grandmother, and am glad to hear you're on the mend.

Ryan Field said...

You poor thing...so sorry.

Just_Me said...

Hugs and condolences.

Take your time to grieve and, if you can, write down the memories of your Grandmother while they're fresh so that your grandchildren can know her.

David J. Williams said...

Jenny- that's awful news--I'm so sorry. I'll be thinking of you. Hang in there, and take care.

Dave

joycemocha said...

Jenny,

Please do take care of yourself. Rest, stay hydrated, and take care of the gut (as one with a problematic gut, I sympathize!).

My condolences to you and your family on your grandmother's death. It's hard to lose someone close, and when it comes when you yourself are ill, it's doubly hard.

Rest, be gentle to yourself, and take care.

beth said...

My sincere condolences to you, and I pray that you get better soon.

Nathalie Mallet said...

Jenny, I’m so sorry about your grandmother. You have my deepest sympathies.

Take care of yourself.

MaryF said...

I just wanted to offer my condolences, Jenny. I hope you feel better soon.

Elissa M said...

I took care of my grandmother for the last 11 years of her very long and full life. She was 107 when she died, and sharp as a tack until the final year. Nothing makes loss easier. Do not cut your grieving short just because someone picks an arbitrary time frame in which you should "get over it". In time, the sadness will diminish and the happy memories will dominate. But you will always miss her. That's good. It shows you're human, and your grandmother mattered to you. Pass on your memories to younger relatives, so they will know her as you did.

We all die. That's easy. Living is hard. Grieve without shame. Your grandmother was loved, and no one can ask for a better epitaph than that.

December/Stacia said...

I'm so sorry to hear all of this, Jenny. Please take care of yourself, and my thoughts are with you and your family.

Tess said...

Sincere condolences on your loss. It's never easy to lose a grandparent, no matter their age.

Hope you're all better soon.

Stijn Hommes said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your bad week. Kind of puts my own in perspective.

Get some well-deserved rest and take care.

Aimless Writer said...

Feel better soon!
I'm so sorry about your grandmother. My prayers go out to you and your family.
God bless.

La Gringa said...

So very sorry about your loss. :-(

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